A big part of mentoring is helping the person looking up to you understand their worth and self value. While I am positive that im not an easy mentee (Hey Fee B lmbo) I will be the first to admit that THIS IS NOT AN EASY JOB! You are constantly on your toes and always attempting to being a good example and role model. It's like the pressure to NOT fail is always on. You have to push and inspire even when it seems super duper hard. you have to leave room for fault while sternly correcting and telling them when they're wrong. you have to leave room and create paths for growth. Lola has not in any way been easy but when she listens --in the end (smh) it makes it worth it. My Baby is growing on me and i dont know how to feel about it. She is literally blossoming right before my eyes. she went from wanting to always being with me to being her own person. Once i realized i couldn't stop her from turning 18(i checked in often to make sure), i knew that prom and graduation would soon follow. Again being trusted with you is not easy, but i dont have a single regret. This weekend one of my prayers for her came to frituion. I constantly ask God to show and remind her that she is Queen and to show me how to set an example of what a Queen is and how a Queen carries herself and this weekend.....She was crowned. ...MY BABY IS A QUEEEEENNNNN!!!!!!!!
You always want what's best for people connected to you. Lola asked me to mentor her like 9 years ago. Like literally asking to look up to me. Little did she know she was asking something weird of me during a very vulnerable part of my life. I had moved away from home and was ready to LIVE. MY. LIFE--there went what i had planned lmbo. She changed me in some ways and upgraded me in many. Mentoring her seemed like a role reversal. She was indeed mentoring me. She kept me on my toes she showed me how to lead, how to be a better sister, HOW TO BE AN OLDER SIBLING, how to pray more lmbo. I learned to not shed light on her all of her wrongs but to let her learn. I learned to let her vent without response, i learned to love on her her when she was hurting, how to drive all the way to her house when my GPS would go out on me just so i could go off on her and how to lead without being perfect. She helped me understand that leading is not about being perfect but being accessible and being an example of of how to get up when and if you fall. She loves hard just like i do and it always gets the best of her lmbo but she learns. I love who she's becoming.
As she was preparing for prom and being a prom queen contestant she told me about what she had planned. the candy, and chocolate covered-strawberries and her campaign. it was cute. really cute, however i know that she knew that her being a queen was not contingent upon her classmates "liking her" more than they did someone else, or her buttering them up with sweet treats. At prom she got what was rightfully hers!!!!! She's already of a royal priesthood! She has royalty in her blood!!! She's the child of a king which makes her a Princess.
When Princesses reach a certain age or a certain stage in life the kingdom holds a coronation. This weekend was hers. As she leaves high school and enters college and pre-adulthood (yes she is fully aware of the fact that she aint grown and can still get popppppppedddd!) She's stepping into her Queenage years. These years dont require validation, they require you to find out who you are. Who you are in Christ, what works for you, what you desire, and what path you'll choose to take. Although youre growing and maturing as am i and i pray you know that i am ALWAYS going to be there for you NO MATTER WHAT. i love you so much, i am so proud of you, and i am excited for what God has for you. what He has for you is FOR YOU. Hold on to what you know about Him and let Him lead you. Continue to be head strong in the sense if not being a follower. Queen's demand what's rightfully theirs. Speak what you want and what you desire. Dont compare yourself to anyone. BE YOU!!! The Lola You know you are. The Lola i cant wait for you to see and discover, the Lola God sees, the Lola i know exists!
Be a Queen Boo!!! Dont live for man's validation, and dont live under the pressure of what you feel like consumes you. YOU HAVE BEEN GROOMED FOR THIS. NOW WALK. THIS WEEKEND WAS A REMINDER FOR YOU OF WHAT YOU ALREADY KNEW.......THAT YOURE A QUEEN!!! I LOVE YOU PUMPKINNNNNNN PIIIIIEEEESSSSS **Smooches**