sRaise your hand if you've ever been personally victimized by an older sibling/cousin growing up while playing "life threatening" hand games!!! Ever play the hand game "Slaps" were you take turns slapping your opponents hand until they gave in? How about "Mercy", where you intertwine your hands between theirs and bend it back as far as you could until they give in? Or my personal favorite: BLOODY KNUCKLES! This one here was only if you wanted to be able to stomp with the "big dogs". In this game there was one opponent and you'd take turns balling your fist up and punching it into their fist. The secret to these games was that there was usually a mutual agreement that you would "go slow" and not hit so hard starting out; that way both parties would have a lasting chance. When we'd reach that knuckle hits that had power and force behind it you knew that your fist hurt but you wouldn't dare give in. These games required good poker faces. You could flinch but you better not cry. It was the ultimate sign of weakness.
When that weakness was seen by your challenger it's like they got a second wind. (I'm protecting the victimizer by not stating names lmbo) but they'd cock that fist back and attempt to punch my--i mean "your" fist as hard as they could but this time you got smarts and backed up; therefore causing to them to miss their hit and punch air. Mannn listen a quick "hold on, let me fix my arm" went a long way to save the little life left in my fist. But what did happen is that my oppressor wasted their good strength!!! That's right all of that good energy put in that elbow to hit my fist WASTED. Giving me time to "readjust". What i learned is that the force they'd put behind their hit this next time would be minimal because they didn't trust that I'd take the hit! It would still burn but i realized that i was getting to them. They doubted the force they'd put behind their hit for their next few turns because they didn't know what to expect. GIVING MY FIST SOMEWHAT OF A BREAK; allowing me to retrain my mind for the pain of the next hit.
The beauty of this is that because i technically didnt give in to the hit by "readjusting" i was entitled to A BONUS ROUND!!! Yep, i had another turn. I had a time to readjust my punching posture, recharge from the pain of the last hit and then for my turn retry to hit back harder! How many situations have you been put in that seems like its just constantly punching the life out of you. How many times have you been so close to giving in because it hurts, because it's too hard or because your opponent is bigger? How many rounds have you been knocked out and desired to stay out? I'm not sure why we played like this growing up (i had a great childhood lol) but it taught valuable lessons that i can still apply.
When have you ever known life to take it easy on the punches it throws your way? It doesn't. Playing these games showed me that not only can i hang and take punches but that i can throw them back just as hard. Often times we face obstacles that feel like they're getting the best of us. Life cocks that fist and hits us full throttle no consideration and no band-aids --because we signed up to play. We decided to go for our dreams. We have to desires to stomp with the big dogs. We work and work well but we take these hits without TAKING a break. The break is needed. Take a break to examine your opponent's (Life's) strategy. Which was how the hits were coming and the power behind them. Take a break and readjust your form. Retrain yourself on news tactics that work for you, recharge and let go of the negative energy that tells you that life will always win because it's bigger, and RETRY!! Try again. When we take a second to breathe our opponents think it's because we're tired and don't think that we'll return to fight (finish) what we started.
Take the hits in the beginning. The BONUS ROUND is where you show off your skill in a new form, with a new strategy and with the mindset to WIN!! During the bonus round you will have more than enough-- support from people who thought you gave in, motivation from the people that cheer you on to keep fighting, and ultimately BRAGGING RIGHTS!!! The break isn't about stopping. It's about confusing the enemy. Once he thinks you've given in he'll put less energy and power behind his attack; when you come back he'll think it's just because, so he'll throw puney punches. Once he feels the force of your hit he'll hit harder and harder-- as will you, but because you've readjusted, retrained, and recharged, when you retry this time although you'll still feel the hit you're still destined to win. You'll win because you're better prepared. He spent his break-time picking on the fact that he thought you gave in as a result of your bad poker face and verge of tears; that he didn't stop to recuperate himself. which makes you stronger and more energized. Keep throwing your punches even with bloody knuckles. You may be smaller but you're more powerful. Take a break but don't give in. The Bonus Round is meant for your VICTORY!!